I have been pondering patterns a bit and while they seem to be useful to organize and categories when it comes to things, they seem to have a more negative connotation, when it comes to behavior of people.
I have patterns, many of which I intend to break, some which I already have broken. My mind likes patterns and organization, so I will stick to finding patterns when organizing spaces, learning new information (like becoming a pilot), but I will no longer apply this search for patterns, when it comes to people. I don't want to categories people. We have the ability to change, and I find that in the past, I have often tried to understand people based on their patterns - including myself! This is a big mistake and didn't allow me to see them, and get to know them. I will test my theory on myself. Today is the start of breaking the smoking habit - 9 hrs 34 minutes now - not much, but it is a start.
I have patterns, many of which I intend to break, some which I already have broken. My mind likes patterns and organization, so I will stick to finding patterns when organizing spaces, learning new information (like becoming a pilot), but I will no longer apply this search for patterns, when it comes to people. I don't want to categories people. We have the ability to change, and I find that in the past, I have often tried to understand people based on their patterns - including myself! This is a big mistake and didn't allow me to see them, and get to know them. I will test my theory on myself. Today is the start of breaking the smoking habit - 9 hrs 34 minutes now - not much, but it is a start.
The other thing my mind enjoys, is critical thinking, which implies being -critical, -evaluating, -maybe even judgmental. Again, this skill may be good for becoming a pilot, when evaluating flight conditions, responding to emergencies, along with looking for patterns and learning checklists, but it is a detriment when it comes to people. People are not machines. Being critical is about the quickest way to keep people from feeling the love you hold for them.
What does all this mean? To me it means it is time to break patterns, and stop being critical of people, including myself, and understand that most of us are always trying their best, at any given time.
Being a pilot will allow me to use the critical thinking and looking-for-pattern skills, were they are a positive. The rest of my energy will go to being happy and loving me and those that hold a place in my heart without judgment.
Word for today: nonjudgmental:refraining from making judgments especially ones based on personal opinions or standards; "sympathetic and nonjudgmental"
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